Reproduction Does Not Equal Fulfillment

Time for my morning writing. Getting out of bed this morning was almost impossible. I was just about ready to go to bed last night when my friend called. She and I haven't talked in a long time so I answered and that delayed my going to sleep by 45 minutes or so. It was nice to chat with her but I'm paying for it this morning.

I think it is interesting how people with children will tell people that don't have children how amazing parenthood is. I think that those of us without kids know that it is probably a great thing because so many people do it. But, in my case, having children has never really been a priority or even a possibility. I just don't want my own kids. Really. There are so many people in my life that think that because I am almost thirty and not married and without children, that my life must not be fulfilled yet. That I must be yearning to get hitched and make babies. I really don't understand where that comes from, the 1950's I suppose. I've got a great job. I enjoy getting out of work and doing what I'd like to do. My s.o. has a son. He was eight when I came into the picture. Now he's thirteen. I can deal with that - never had to clean up dirty diapers, didn't have to wake up in the middle of the night to feed him, didn't have to deal with wetting the bed or any terrible twos kind of stuff. This I can do. He dresses himself, feeds himself and can do most of what he needs to do without being told.

I am more than happy to just keep on doing what I am doing in my life and not worry about making more people that will just end up making more people and choking out this planet. That was the reasoning behind several books, protests and movies that have been made - as far back as the 60's. The population is becoming so large that this planet is not going to be able to support it all. We are going to have the become very creative when it comes to feeding everyone and preventing diseases from spreading. That was just the icing on the cake for me not wanting kids - a great philosophy that actually goes along with how I feel. I'm happy with where I am in life and I think that other peoples views on having children need to change - they should not think that it is the number one way to be fulfilled in life because there is so much more to it than just reproducing.